Sunday, November 13, 2016

Our Mother - Lorna Josephine Robson - January 28, 1919 - May 13, 2016

Following Mom's move to Chartwell Aurora, the long term care residence, our family gathered at Mom's Chartwell Valley Vista apartment to move things to storage that Mom might need in future and to divide the rest among the family.  Evelyn (my sister in law) had already agreed to work on the Robson family history prior to Mom's death and they took all relevant papers and photo's with them.
As Ev was sorting through volumes of information, she discovered a poem that Mom had written, a poem we did not know existed.  Ev read the poem at the beginning of the funeral service and gave Mom the most wonderful tribute to her life of service to the family and the community.  

Lorna's Story
The year 1919 had arrived,
And peace from war was here
Sam & Eve had welcomed too,
A baby - number three

The family came quite quickly
A year and a half apart.
Norena May and Charlie came
And won their parents hearts.

Lorna Jo then followed
No blond hair did she have.
But brown hair short and chubby
She looked a lot like Dad.

At five I was reciting
At local events around.
My mother made me pretty clothes,
In which I could expound.

I didn't grow too quickly
My health was not the best.
But finally at the age of seven,
Bala School put me to the test.

School choir was another love
Our teacher was the best.
Duets with Joe, in fancy clothes,
Our songs helped us do our best.

I dreamed of being a teacher
School was not too hard for me.
Because of health and finances,
The dream was not to be.

Depression days were difficult
Factory work the best you'd get.
So making radios, clocks and hats,
Helped my family pay the rent.

Music was important in our house
Sunday afternoon could be
a concert all in harmony
Which ended up in glee.

Norena met a young man
His name was Leonard Hughes.
He was a guitar playing singing cowboy,
Who loved to sing the blues.

Norena learned Hawaiian (note:  Hawaiian guitar)
And I could play the uke.
With lots of practice, we finally were 
accepted in Len's group.

The MacKay Trio was our title
Len and I sang great.
We put on many concerts,
From Owen Sound down to the lake.

In april 1938
My life was changed a lot.
I went to work at Teston Store
To help my dear Grandpop.

He was scheduled for surgery
And Grandma wasn't well
As I wasn't working at the time
I volunteered to help

I met a lot of country folk
Jean Robson was the first to meet
We soon became good friends
She worked just down the street.

Along came her brother Charlie
With Jean's best friend in tow
They planned an evening fishing
So bought some food to go.

Charlie and I just seemed to click
Almost from the very start.
And visits to the Robson farm
Soon won this city girl's heart

Two weeks ran into six months,
Time spent in Teston town
The love bug kept on biting
But back to work to stop my Daddy's frown

Three years we courted back and forth
Roy & Jean our bosom friends
Not much money to toss about
But fun and friends right to the end.

We finally wed in '41
In my birthplace on MacKay.
Thirty-two friends and family
On a beautiful sunny day.

Our honeymoon was short and sweet
A weekend around Lake Simcoe.
Thunderstorms cold, then sunshine,
But our love just overflowed.

Our life together was a happy one
Sixty years a record for most, we guess
A few rough times in later years
But oh God's blessings and tests.

March 2, 2002, Charlie left my side
Quick and peaceful after sad good-byes.
But at St. Paul's that sunny day,
We felt his spirit rise.
____________________________________________________
We can only assume that Mom wrote this shortly after Dad passed away and we'll never know if she had more she would have added.  It's perfect as it is, and a wonderful discovery among all the memories Mom collected.

Traditional portrait at age 19
A photographer snaps Mom walking
to work in downtown Toronto - age 19
Our family visiting Mom's parents - 1950's
Annual Christmas photo with almost everyone in attendance
Tiny Mom beside her best friend Agnes, Agnes'
daughters (left to right) Joyce, Marlene and Lorraine and
their cousin Ruthe (to my right),  my friend since
we were five

Always game to take on a challenge and to
prove to me that she was braver than me...and
she definitely proved that!

Bob and my family at Mom's 90th

Wayne, Jan and me at Mom's 90th
Straight as can be and having a blast
at her 90th.  The crowd filled the large room
at The Gables of Kleinburg
Always thrilled to be in the presence of children

Our grandaughter Shanelle
Mom gets to hold her great-grandaughter
(our youngest grandchild) Avery for the first time

May 2015 with caregiver Henry, Rachel and Peter

Competing in, and winning, the annual
Christmas photo competition
Alien eyes helping Mom drive our car

June 2015 - Loving her ice cream
at the Mill Pond, Richmond Hill

Another Christmas photo competition - another win!

Mom always loved to cook, and to eat!


Mom's only remaining cousin Ruth and
her son David, at Mom's 95th birthday bash


Mom loved the manicures and makeup

Even in hospital, Mom's makeup had to be applied
Taken at Valley Vista, not long before
she became ill and entered hospital for the
last time.
Celebrating Mom's 97th birthday, January 2016
Mom's birthday cupcake with Ev,
a private caregiver, Bob and Wayne
Mom adored her friend and caregiver Susanne

The last photo of Mom with her wonderful caregivers
Omid and Sara at Chartwell Aurora


Dad and Mom's grave.  I took Mom there
in May 2015 for her second last visit
I was with Mom when she passed on May 13, 2016.  It was a beautiful warm and sunny day and we sat outside with Sara, laughed and chatted until I took her inside for her daily nap before lunch.  She really didn't awaken but appeared to be snoozing when I took her to the dining room.  She passed so quietly and in such a beautiful way that I only sensed that something had changed.  I am grateful that I was with her on that day, a day that I would normally not be visiting.

A couple of weeks after Mom passed, we were about to leave the marina and ride our bikes to our community garden plot in Penetanguishene when two Mourning Doves landed right beside my foot. Without thinking I said "Hi Mom and Dad".  They toddled about for a minute, then off they flew. We were amazed because we had never seen them come this close to humans.  It was Bob and my little joke.  Two weeks after that, we were at anchor in a bay at a little island in The North Channel, sitting on the bow of the boat waiting for the sunset, as we do every evening.  We heard twittering, wings fluttering, and a Mourning Dove landed right beside us on our life ring.  Bob exclaimed, "Here's your Mom!".  The dove stayed long enough for me to take this photo and to provide us with a sense of total peace.

Prior to Mom's passing, we gave this painting
of a tree with falling leaves to Valley Vista, as
as thanks for the wonderful care they
gave Mom for the 6 years she lived there.
Our daughter Rachel is the artist, and
she called it "Stay With Me"
The funeral was a happy event.  Grandchildren Brian, Steve, Kevin and Rachel spoke and Bob read my words for me.  We are so blessed to have had this Dad and Mom, these strong loving and principled icons, in our lives for so long.  They gave us such a sound foundation to build on and none of their off-spring has ever let them down.  Thank you!  Forever in our memories and our hearts.  There are no better words than the following poem as a tribute to Mom,  read by Rachel at the funeral.

ON THE DEATH OF THE BELOVED - John O'Donohue
Though we need to weep your loss,
You dwell in that safe place in our hearts,
Where no storm or night or pain can reach you.

Your love was like the dawn
Brightening over our lives
Awakening beneath the dark
A further adventure of colour.

The sound of your voice
Found for us
A new music
That brightened everything.

Whatever you enfolded in your gaze
Quickened in the joy of its being;
You placed smiles like flowers
On the altar of the heart.
Your mind always sparkled 
With wonder at things.

Though your days here were brief,
Your spirit was live, awake, complete.

We look towards each other no longer
From the old distance of our names;
Now you dwell inside the rhythm of breath,
As close to us as we are to ourselves.

Though we cannot see you with outward eyes,
We know our soul's gaze is upon your face,
Smiling back at us from within everything
To which we bring our best refinement.

Let us not look for you only in memory,
Where we would grow lonely without you.
You would want us to find you in presence,
Beside us when beauty brightens,
When kindness glows
And music echoes eternal tones.

When orchids brighten the earth,
Darkest winter has turned to spring;
May this dark grief flower with hope
In every heart that loves you.

May you continue to inspire us:

To enter each day with a generous heart.
To serve the call of courage and love
Until we see your beautiful face again
In that land where there is no more separation,
Where all tears will be wiped from our mind,
And where we will never lose you again.




Sunday, April 10, 2016

June 2015 to April 2016


FINALLY!  Lots of fun plus a bit of drama, makes for an interesting (almost) year.

June, 2015
Celebrating Yve's birthday in Midland



Linda, first one in the 69F water June 29th





Yves had to be bet $50 before he'd swim


Then it was Gramps turn….but no Grams...

How proud they were…and so they should be!

Sunset anchored off Beausoleil Island





Second week of July and time for the grandsons to board
Grandaughter Avery has a turn at the wheel, closely
watched by another Grandmother, Margaret, Maggie's Mom

Matt and Ben on the bow as we head out for a bit of a spin


John takes a turn at the wheel and loves being Captain



Most of the boys out on deck

Margaret, Tina, Avery and Maggie

Penetanguishene Paddlewheeler tour boat

Back in port, we have a birthday dinner for Ben's 12th


Soccer themed birthday cake


Sean tests what it's like being a big brother
After the parents and grandparents leave, we head out to Beausoleil,
our first anchorage on our trip north

Along the way, we encounter friends Claudette and John, owners
of Jade V, heading back to port

2nd day - Annual lunch at Henry's on San Souci Island.  We find
satisfied diners taking off in our wake

Matt handles the bow line.  That's the owner Paul, waiting on the
dock for the perfect throw.

Ben throws the stern line and Paul helps Bob get
TULAW in to the dock





Massassauga Park anchorage for the night


A welcome visitor


Matt's cooking dinner and modelling (in his own
unique way) the new Chef gear


Next morning - Ben's on breakfast duty



While Sean catches up on some Shakespeare 

First catch of the season




Ben catches a big guy and is so, so happy!


Sean's turn!  Grandma only cooked 4 meals the
entire time.  Love our galley slaves!!




I believe I only did dishes one time…Bonus!


Another perfect anchorage.

No one there but us!



Ben seems to be waiting for the phone call that
never came, in Parry Sound





Yummy nacho's by Chef Sean


We stood off while 60 boats from the Parkbridge family of
marina's cruised past, taking part in the 2015 Regatta

Anchored in Echo Bay, a dinghy broke loose and the boys went out
to tow it back to the owner





Crazy dive action!






Longuissa - one of our favourite anchorages and where
we saw four loon together. ….a rare sight






Morning coffee after shopping at the Midland Farmers Market

Matt enjoys a bit of quiet time in his creative gladiator
helmet



Sean and Ben do a long swim while we ride alongside in the dinghy



Ben gets permission to take the dinghy out and
it's some time later that he realizes that Grandpa
has him tied to the boat




My little onboard garden of herbs.  Loved it!

Back at the dock and awaiting the arrival of the parents for
the trip home


The next day, Bob and I head out to one of our favourite
anchorages.  Much busier now!

Exploring various inlets, we discover these young
explorers who have just managed to shoot some rapids
and remain upright


A gorgeous old wooden Muskoka yacht

Perfect reflection

And a perfect bright full moon

Back in Penetang, we attended the weekend Champlain Days celebration
at Rotary Park…500 years since Champlain discovered Penetang and
made nice with the local aboriginal leaders



















Happy Anniversary Peter and Rachel!!

Shocked to discover this big cruise ship in Midland.  It travels
most waters of Quebec and Ontario

Back in Bolton, we celebrate Tina's 50th (although she looks half that!)

Back up the road to Penetang and the next day we cycle
to Victoria Harbour and back

A picnic lunch at the halfway point

The next day we are joined by ex-boaters and dear friends, Ron
and Cathy for 5 days anchoring

The lovely Cathy…another galley slave

Gorgeous sailboat beside us

Fisher-people Cathy and Bob while Ron and I sit out back and drink!

Cathy and I choose the lazy kayaking experience


We assess the rapids to determine if we could manage
but decide it might not be a great idea


So we just play in the lower rapids

Then get towed back to the mother ship

Cathy and Ron left the next day and the following day, Bob saw an optometrist in Midland because he had some blurriness in his right eye.  He thought it was a bit of infection and it was beginning to spread.  The optometrist did some testing and sent us directly to an opthamologist in Emergency at the hospital in Barrie.  The opthamologist did more testing and sent us to St. Michaels Hospital in downtown Toronto with orders that if we weren't there in 3 hours, he or St. Michael's would be calling us to determine where we were.  By the time we arrived at the eye clinic in the hospital and Bob was seen at 1 a.m., Bob had lost all vision in his right eye.  We booked a room at the Sheraton City Hall Hotel and waited two days until the retina specialist was in his office on Monday morning.  To take our mind off things, we did what we love to do, explore our city.

Free transport, created for the Pan Am Game tourists
and residents.  Pretty cute!



Something new; a terrific food market alongside Union Station


Newly completed Front Street.  It took a few years
and is worth the wait!

Kinky Boots had just opened

The "TORONTO" sign was new


Rachel sent us this adorable photo of Cortes and their new baby Mexican
rescued dog "Lu".  Sweet!

Back in the city a week later for the surgery, we again check into
the hotel and spend time the day before surgery, attending the
various street celebrations

This dude played with swords on top of a 15 foot pole

Part of a very intricate two person costume

New Ryerson campus


Kensington Market - Art on the street
Up bright and early (4 a.m.) on Monday morning, we walk to St. Michaels for Bob's surgery.  After 2 1/2 hours (Bob was awake for it, had watched a video on it the day before and understood everything that was going on), the surgeon called me as I waited in the Family Lounge (very nice too…if you have to be in a hospital) and said he was pleased.  He didn't know how much vision Bob would be left with, but knew he would have some.  A tear in his left eye retina was repaired with laser surgery.  His recovery instructions were strict, as was administration of drops and drugs and the only position he was allowed to sleep in for a week.  Thankfully, it is the way he sleeps anyway (laying on his left side).  Back to the boat for the recovery!
Right after surgery

Cheers!  To a successful operation

Steve, Tina and Sean came to visit during the recovery period and
went out for a spin.  Sean's got the driving mastered!

Unable to get out of the marina or do much of anything at all,
I would find Bob gazing at the sunsets or out over the lake.  A one-eyed gaze
mind you….his patch was something to behold.

A couple of weeks later, we head to The Explorers for a fabulous Tastings Dinner


I win a very special bottle of Verjus, simply because I paid attention
to what Rob was saying and answered a test question correctly.


Still unable to risk taking the boat out, and Bob still staring out at the water, I decide we should take the van and head to the interior of Algonquin Park.  It was an amazing 10 days of solitude (there were a few campers, but not many this late in September), walking, gentle kayaking and watching the wildlife.  At our second camp, 80 kms into the interior of the park, we counted 17 loon all together, right in front of our campsite.  The park ranger told us they have up to 30 young loon gather prior to their trip south.  Their parents have already gone south (just like the rest of we snowbirds) while the juveniles stay a bit longer to gain strength to make the trip.  Once they head out however, they travel alone.

Kiosk Park, at the north end of Algonquin.  Storm clouds
gathered and we had quite a bit of rain

Ah, but when the sun came out, it was glorious!


Achray, our second campground, 70 kms into the park on the eastern (Ottawa
Valley) side.  A perfect little oasis

One beautiful neighbour kept knocking us up!




This is where Tom Thomson painted his famous "Jack Pine"


A day spent kayaking Barron Canyon  Gorgeous!


The reflection was so crisp it seemed that we were looking
100 feet into the depths
Lunch stop on a little island
The canyon we just kayaked, but this time from the top


Neighbours in a great older van


The exact spot where Tom painted "Jack Pine"
The tree is long gone so we just used our imaginations

The last sunset at the marina.  Steve and Tina came
to help us move our vehicles and boat contents home.
We were so grateful!


TULAW hauled out and headed to the shed to get her winter coat

All snug, she heads to her winter spot overlooking the bay
Mom and her last remaining cousin Ruth at 87
and Mom at almost 97.  We had a celebratory dinner
at Valley Vista with Ruth's son David and his wife Judy
Back row:  Bob, me, Wayne, Ev, Judy and David
Front row:  Mom and Ruth


Back home, the park trees are showing off their fall
colours

A beauty on the sidewalk

With fall comes hockey and reunion with our
grands.  How Avery has grown


Grandpa and the youngest of our grand-girls, watching
Avery's brother on the ice
Out for a Thai meal after hockey

Back at the Habkirk house, the kids model their Hallowe'en costumes.
Avery had had enough of the silliness and protested.  My!  She
has a really, really loud voice!!!

Ben and Matthew decide they will wear the costumes they wore 5 years
ago.  We don't recall them fitting quite like that then.


Avery's first school picture

Bob still can't drive, so we spent a lot of time walking the local trails in Toronto
Beautiful!!

And the colours become even more fabulous
Almost done!  Park beside our house.

Someone left a glove, with a bit of a message!
In Victoria, Rachel has a one woman Art show.
A tremendous success!

After 10 months of relatively good health, Mom
is once again in hospital in November
We spent November in hospital rooms and doctors offices.  I was diagnosed with skin cancer on my nose and placed on a cancellation list for Mohs Method surgery.  Bob had an appointment with the surgeon who told him that his vision might continue to improve (he still wasn't driving) and to return in February for a final assessment.  Life was hectic.  Mom left hospital the last week of November and was back in hospital, in Toronto this time, which was more convenient for me, and we placed her on a wait list for crisis placement in a long term facility in Aurora or Newmarket.  Life was a bit crazy.

Our only social outing for some time was a fabulous escape
from the stress.  Friends Natasha and Yuri, invited us for dinner
and surprised us with the other guests; their son Yuri (Junior), his
partner Jaqueline and Yuri's famous accordion teacher, Branko.
It was a music filled night and we left with Branko's CD and
wonderful memories.  Played the CD at high volume as we
drove home.





Out with my sweet friend Jen, for her birthday dinner

Christmas lights appear in the neighbourhood
Our friends Yves and Linda come from Ottawa to spend a week with us.  We have so much fun spending the day at the One of a Kind Show, preparing and eating great food, going to the movies….the usual fun time with our friends.

December 13th - Sean becomes a teen!

December 24th, Mom is transferred from hospital
to our first choice of long term care homes.  She
arrives on a gurney, accompanied by Bob.  It was
an insane day at the home, as staff went on holidays
and part-time staff took over.  Mom wasn't good.
Two weeks later, and to the surprise of Aurora Resthaven staff,
Mom is up in a wheelchair and beginning to understand that
she had moved to a new home.

 Christmas dinners/celebrations for us in 2015
were the Robson Christmas (without Mom) at Steve and Tina's
and Bob was transported by Jenn and Marcin, to
the Habkirk family dinner in Ingersoll.  We spent a quiet
Christmas together at home.

I love unusual Christmas decorations and adore
these crazy/wonderful decorations from Linda and Yves


And my Venetian glass gondola Santa from my good friend Sylvia
in Halifax…collected on her travels to Italy last year.  

Mom's amazing physiotherapist Sundar (from Mysore India where
Rachel was doing more yoga training in January/February 2016)
motivates our tough little Mom to "get moving!"  88 lbs and
now 4'5", the little bird is determined to do everything asked of her and
to make it to 100 years of age.  Bless her!

 January, 2016
Warren, Bob and me at the Toronto Boat Show in January.  Such
a great time….always!!!
I like this million dollar baby!







Wow!



Deja "View"!  Our room overlooking City Hall for the Boat Show, and the very busy
rink…in spite of the warm weather.  Skating in the rain
isn't necessarily the worst thing we can do.

Mom's Birthday

No flame allowed, but Mom really enjoyed her
cupcake-cake and her musical candle

As you can see, I had my surgery (6 hours from start to finish but
not "under the knife" all that time) and can really celebrate
Mom's 97th birthday.
Beautiful bouquet from Jan and Elliot
A lovely afternoon with our dear friend and caregiver, Susanne
Tara and Tom bring Mom a pretty pink teddy bear
to add to her collection

 March, 2016
On an unusually warm pre-spring day, Sara (caregiver) and I
take Mom outside wrapped in a blanket and notice a red-tailed hawk
in the tree overhead.  

Bob's birthday March 3rd.  A quiet day at home
and the next day, a celebratory dinner at Jenn and Marcin's

Fabulous gardens created inside the Energy Centre for the Canada Blooms Show.
The smells, running water and tall trees take us to
a wonderful early spring











That's an award trophy!  Cool hey?

Gazebo created out of pallets



Coolest!
Wine cellar





Jenn's Birthday - #41 on St. Patrick's Day
Irish Dancers at Aurora Resthaven.  The wee girl
beside Mom is 93 years younger than Mom.
She loved the music and the young dancers.


Sean's teams Championship game


And they won!

How it looks when they win


Proud Dad in the background (the big guy)
waiting for the awards presentation
Well done Sean!




When you play well, you get to be the hockey stick collector


Father and son
Celebrating Susanne's 60th Birthday

Easter weekend; we load the bikes into the van and head
to one of the most wonderful park systems in Toronto - Sunnybrook Park
for a ride as far as we can manage.  A fantastic weekend!


Rest stop at Sunnybrook Stables

Such a cute minature pony!




Under the rail system

Rachel's painting, a thank you for Chartwell Valley
Vista from the family, for the love and care they gave Mom



Staff at Valley Vista were touched and many memories
of Mom were exchanged.  They told us how much they
miss Mom and the family.  This is Jeff, Activities Director,
and General Manager, Lucy




Mom at the Chartwell Aurora Easter celebration





April 4th - Happy 51st Steve!!!
Below:  Steve at 3 years

April 4th - Rachel opens her new yoga studio
in Victoria.  www.mysorevictoria.com

At the end of the first week, we have a very, very happy entrepreneur  
Bob is now driving, with 20/60 vision in his right eye and perfect vision in his left.  Life is pretty good and it's almost boating season!  My, my…how time flies.

 Random photo's:
Avery is quite the little charmer.



And a bit of a clown


Stop that Avery!  It's Ben and Matt's job!